Published by Slash
Title: The 5 Best Places not to Argue
by Slash Coleman
1/7/05 - Whole News Magazine
For one full year before my divorce, each and every Friday evening, my wife at the
time and I abstained from the usual night-out couple fare and opted for two cozy
chairs and guidance in a marriage counselors office. As our relationship limped
through gridlock, we requested to forgo typical relationship saving advice for
something much more important - Battle Secrets! Sympathetic to our brainless
determination to throw in the towel, our therapist, besides teaching us how to
send our relationship to the relationship graveyard gracefully, taught us The 5
Best Places Not to Argue which probably did more to save our dignity than
anything else.

While I learned these lessons too late to save my own marriage, I’ve carried them
into subsequent relationships with great success.  As a rule of thumb, suggest
the new ground rules to your partner during neutral time - not before, during or
after an argument. Also, while you’ll likely find your partner quite agreeable to the
system, you’ll both probably be tempted to break the rules when things heat up.
When you’re lured into an area that is off limits say, “I’m not going to talk about this
now,” suggest another time for the discussion, and leave the room.

1) Don’t Argue During Meals
Arguing is full of carbs, makes for bad food combining, and besides, nowhere on
the South Beach diet does it read, “Stir in ¼ teaspoon of cross table wrangling.”
Don’t sell yourself short when it comes to the effects of a peaceful meal. Besides,
how on earth will you ever win that fight if don’t nourish yourself?
Solution: Even innocent conversation can turn a nasty corner during a meal. If you
anticipate a topic becoming a potential hazard, recommend that you save it until
the dishes are done. >Read the entire article
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© Slash Coleman 2006